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Resolutions Reinforcements #6
Resolutions Reinforcements #6
"Who cares?" That is not necessarily an expression of apathy or scorn. All of us need to feel like we have people in our lives who care about us and our wellbeing. Such people should do more than offer positive reaffirmation and reassurance. We benefit from those who keep us honest and are willing to say even the difficult things we need to hear. When we talk about goals and resolutions, we need at least someone whom we seek out to hold us accountable. Accountability, in its strictest sense, means "liable to judgment and punishment" when used of God's holding mankind accountable (Rom. 3:19; BDAG 1037). Today, we typically mean by accountable that we are responsible to someone to explain or defend our actions. Am I succeeding or failing? Who will help me accurately assess that?
Augustine of Hippo, in his fourth-century Confessions, wrote, "A brotherly person rejoices on my account when he approves me, but when he disapproves, he is loving me. To such people I will reveal myself. They will take heart from my good traits, and sigh with sadness at my bad ones. My good points are instilled by you and are your gifts. My bad points are my faults and your judgements on them. Let them take heart from the one and regret the other. Let both praise and tears ascend in your sight from brotherly hearts, your censers. ...But you Lord...Make perfect my imperfections." We are well-served to have those willing to disapprove, to sigh, and to render gentle judgment as much as give their positive counterparts.
Do you have someone in your life right now who can help you stay accountable to your goals? Ideally, it would be your spouse, but maybe it's a trusted friend, a sibling, a local Christian, a church leader, or a parent. Find someone in whom to confide your goals and then establish a system to have them evaluated. Just knowing that someone else knows what you're aiming at may dramatically improve your likelihood of hitting it.
